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Lifeinstyle swinger events FAQ Frequently Asked questions about the swinger Lifestyle

The FAQ frequently asked questions of the Lifeinstyle events

Are there any rules?

CONSENT is mandatory.  No means No! Control your alcohol intake.  Respect the privacy of the other guests. Respect the property and follow the guidelines posted throughout the venue. When in doubt, ask.

How can I connect with other likeminded | open minded |  swinger couples?

Our preferred network is where couples can post and meet others. In addition, approved members can connect with others, message, check who is attending the event and more at the Lifeinstyle mobile app here.

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When is the next event?

Subscribe to our site to stay in touch for all the upcoming events. Once you are a verified member, you can find the events on as well as weekly emails and posts across our social media platforms. 

My partner is still undecided about joining the lifestyle. Can you help?

Talk to one another, read our blogs related to your situation and respect the decision of your spouse. Consider emailing our Lifeinstyle hostess for a consultation 

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Are single men allowed?

Our events are for couples and single females. We are working on events where single males can attend. These events will be advertised as single males allowed. You are welcome to apply for a SELECT SINGLE ACCOUNT to be welcomed at groups where single males are welcomed.

Can I take pictures or videos?

We strongly suggest that you only take photos in designated areas, such as the photo backdrop.  If you take photos, make sure that there are no other guests in the picture and NEVER take a picture of someone without permission. 

What is the age group of the guests?

Our guests' range in age from 21-65 with a median age of 40. 

We only attend small events. What are your parties like?

Our events vary in size from a group of 50 up to 400.  We host meet and greets, parties and large events throughout the year.  There is just as much fun to have at a small event as there is at a larger party.   

 Lifeinstyle couples are overall very friendly and kind.  At select events we have a crew to help the crowd.   Most couples come to the parties to meet other couples and are therefore more open to conversation and being approached by new couples. 

We want to join the Lifestyle. Do you have any tips for newbies?

Most important is that you are on the same page as far as boundaries and the reason that you are attending. Be flexible, sometimes the best experiences are not planned.  Lifeinstyle parties are not sex focused or sex based.  Come to have a good time and expect nothing, be prepared for anything. 

What is the dress code at lifestyle events?

Cocktail attire is the base for every party, unless we have a themed event. Dress to impress.  

Will anyone make me to do something I am not comfortable with?

Our guests are expected to be respectful and discreet, that is the requirement.  Any games or activities are optional. 

I applied for a Lifeinstyle account, but it hasn’t been approved. Can you help me?

Accounts can take from 1-4 days for approval due to the high volume of requests and the work that goes into vetting each one of them. Please be patient and we will get to your profile ASAP. Approvals are up to the Administrator discretion and due to the large amount of requests, we can’t provide information regarding denials. 

What if someone disrespects us at a lifestyle event?

Security and your hosts are always on site. Stay cool, we are all adults and misunderstandings happen.  Let your hosts know what has happened and let’s have a conversation to figure it all out. Respect in our events is our number one priority. 

We are very private due to our jobs and/or family. What kind of measures do you take to protect our confidentiality? 

We never share account information, guest lists or post photos of guests without permission. Discretion is key to our events.

How many couples do you expect to see at the next event?

Every event is different. We always have an average of 100+ guests. 

What is the Lifestyle?

The lifestyle is a way of life where couples or individuals engage in activities with other couples or individuals (CNM). Lifestyle couples often participate in events or gatherings where they can meet other like-minded people.

It's important to note that participating in the lifestyle is always consensual, and communication and respect are key values within the community. We prioritize open and honest communication with our partners and others we engage with.

Being lifestyle is a state of mind. Being lifestyle does not always mean swapping partners. It is a community of people that are open minded and accepting of everyone’s  sexual desires.

What are the themed rooms?

Themed rooms are cozy spaces in which couples are allowed to explore. You can lounge, relax, play around, flirt, mingle, enjoy the ambiance, and feel sexy.  

Can I bring my friends?

All guests must have an approved Lifeinstyle profile to attend events. It can take up to 3 days to get your account approved, so allow the time necessary to make your reservation for an event.   Door sales are not allowed 

We are new to the lifestyle and have never met anyone else yet. Can we still have a good time?

Absolutely! You are not alone. The crowd at our events always have 20-30% new couplesYou are attending a party full of sexy couples that love to have fun! As your hosts, we do our best to greet all the guests and to introduce new couples to the crowd.  

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How do I know what a couple is into? 

Just be upfront and ask. For example, “How do you play?” “What are your rules?” “What are you into?” 

Is there security at the Lifeinstyle parties?

Yes.  They are there to make sure that outside guests are not allowed to enter and to help with any basic questions or concerns that you may have.   

Where is the Location of the event?

All guests will receive an email the night before the event with the location and specific information for the night. This is for your PRIVACY and DISCRETION. At bigger events as in our Las Vegas events at NSW we release the location a week before. Check your spam folder before you contact us, please. 

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Do we have to dress like the theme of the party?

We encourage everyone to dress as the theme. However, it is not required UNLESS SPECIFIED at the event page.

Where can I find Lifestyle apparel? 

Please check our friends at TUGS Nation apparel, a Veteran owned and operated company from Birmingham, AL as well as the Lifeinstyle Libertines shop

I booked an event and I cannot attend. How can I get a refund? 

Most events and parties are non-refundable 30 days before the event. Please check your tickets and the ticket event policy agreement. To process a refund please send an email to Please note that before the non-refundable period there is a refund fee and the ticket processing fees are non-refundable. Refunds can take up to 15 business days to process.

Any more questions or concerns about attending Lifeinstyle events? Email us at:

Your hosts: Em n Lu

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