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let's talk about fetishes and kinks

Updated: Mar 22

Let’s talk about the importance of communication and being on the same page in the kink world!

We’re touching on some very hot topics at Lifeinstyle this week and want you to join in on the wild fun as we add a lot more ideas and concepts throughout the month!

Don’t feel intimidated! Talk to your partner about your kinks! There is nothing more liberating that having a conversation with your significant other about your kinks and sexual desires.

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WHAT IS THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN KINK AND FETISH?

Kink and Fetish are terms that are often used interchangeably, but they actually refer to two different concepts . A kink is any sexual activity or proclivity that falls outside of the social norm, while a fetish is a specific object or body part that is necessary for sexual arousal. In this blog, we will explore the world of kink and fetish, and learn about the differences between the two terms.

KINKS

Kink refers to a wide range of sexual practices, from bondage and discipline to role-playing and voyeurism. People who engage in kink often find pleasure in exploring and pushing boundaries, whether through some form of pain or pleasure. Kink can be enjoyed alone or with a partner, and is often seen as a way to explore one's sexuality in a safe and consensual manner.

FETISH

On the other hand, a fetish is a specific object or body part that a person has is necessary for sexual arousal. For example, some people may have a foot fetish, meaning where they are sexually aroused by feet. Fetishes can range from common objects like lingerie to more obscure objects like balloons or cars.

HOW DO I TALK TO MY PARTNER ABOUT MY KINKS?

How do I talk to my partner?
how to i talk to my partner about my kinks?

Many people are hesitant to talk to their partner about their sexual interests, but open and honest communication can help build trust and intimacy. It’s important to remember that kinks and fetishes are normal and healthy expressions of sexuality, and discussing them with your partner can help you explore your desires and deepen your connection.



LISTEN TO YOUR PARTNER

This point is so important when discussing kinks and fetishes. It’s important to give your partner your undivided attention and refrain from judgment. When you actively listen to your partner, you show them that their desires and interests are important to you, and you create a safe space where they can share their deepest fantasies without fear of shame or ridicule.

FIND THE RIGHT PLACE

It’s important to make sure that both you and your partner are in a relaxed and comfortable state of mind, and that you have enough time to fully explore the topic without feeling rushed or distracted. You might consider having the conversation during dinner or in a cozy setting where you can talk openly. Remember, the key to a successful conversation about kinks and fetishes is to approach it with an open mind and a willingness to listen and learn from each other.

ARE KINKS COMMON?

Yes! Kinks are very common and it's important to explore and understand them if you're curious about your own sexuality. For instance, impact play is a popular kink that involves spanking, flogging, paddling, and other consensual forms of striking. While it may not be for everyone, impact play can be a fun and exciting way to explore power dynamics in the bedroom.



I DON'T FEEL COMFORTABLE WHEN I THINK ABOUT KINKS

When it comes to exploring kinks and fetishes, it's easy to see how religion and social stigmas can create paradigms that make it difficult for individuals to express themselves. We have seen examples of this happen in our six years of tenure organizing events. However, it's important to recognize that these paradigms are often constructed by societal norms and values, rather than personal beliefs. Just as science has paradigms that set the precedent for research, societal norms also establish paradigms that influence how people perceive certain behaviors and actions.


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Religious and Social stigmas

Religion

Religion can plays a significant role in the creation of these paradigms, as it establishes a moral code of behavior that adherents are expected to follow. This can lead to feelings of guilt and shame for individuals who want to explore their kinks and fetishes that are considered taboo by their religion. Some religious individuals have found ways to reconcile their faith with their sexual desires, and have even created communities that provide support for others in similar situations.

Social stigmas

Social Stigmas also play a role in the creation of paradigms that can make it difficult for individuals to fully express themselves sexually. The Functionalist paradigm, for a simple example, describes how society creates elements that promote social stability for the greatest number of people. This can lead to the ostracization of individuals who deviate from societal norms, such as those who engage in kinks and fetishes that are considered taboo. However, it's important to recognize that social stigmas can be challenged and changed over time, as thankfully society becomes more accepting of diverse forms of sexual expression.

The paradigma

At the end of the day, the paradigms between kinks, religion, and social stigmas can create significant challenges for individuals who want to explore their sexual desires. However, it's important to remember that these paradigms are not absolute, and can be challenged and changed over time. It's up to each individual to decide what they are comfortable with and what they want to explore, and to work to find communities that can provide the support and acceptance they need to fully express themselves. Everyone deserves the opportunity to explore their sexuality in a way that is safe, consensual, and fulfilling.

KINKS ARE NORMAL

Kinks are normal and a very healthy part of human sexuality, and it's important to explore and understand them if you're curious about your own desires. Whether you're interested in impact play, bondage, role-playing, domination and submission, or exhibitionism, or any other there are many different ways to explore and enjoy your kinks in a safe and consensual way. Remember to always communicate openly and honestly with your partner, establish clear boundaries, and prioritize safety and consent at all times.

LIFEINSTYLE KINK CARNIVAL

Don’t forget Lifeinstyle Fetish Glam event this month!! April 12th. Come party and share your kinks with other members of the Lifeinstyle kink Community here!

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